Once Upon A Time There Was A Story We Told Ourselves - & it can be changed.

Stories are as important to human beings as eating.  In children, tales spark connections and aid visual imagination.  In adults the stories we tell ourselves shape our behaviour. What stories are you living by?

If your eyes are busy and your ears are not, here is my blog post in audio.

4 mins long, or simply scroll down to read.



In my blog, I write about creativity.  I work with people that swear they are totally uncreative and don’t have an artistic bone in them.  At this point, I ask them about the last book they read.



Because when we read (and it’s fair to say that many, many of us do) we visualise characters, create scenes in our minds.  We make snippets of environments and actions from the words on a page or spoken via the radio or audiobooks.

This is your creativity going full bore.  You are as creative as the next person.

And then there are the stories we tell ourselves, the ones we live by and believe are sacrosanct.  Stories such as “I’m terrible at horse-riding, I can never lose-weight or I absolutely can’t cook”.

These are stories, myths that we live by because in reality, if we took horse-riding lessons (you are never too old) or studied YouTube videos on how to boil an egg, you could indeed do those things.  

The story that you tell yourself, live by, is incorrect and can be altered (more about this coming soon)

My post today has been stimulated by an article about a professional diver, Grahame Knott.  He has finally found an aeroplane that came down in the sea off The Dorset Coast in 1969 - after many years of searching.

Knott is a Story Hunter (am struck his fantastic job description).  His longed-for find will tell the actual tale of a homesick mechanic that made off alone in a Hercules aeroplane from his Suffolk Base in order to be with his wife and step-children back in America.   

Sergeant Paul Meyer, 23 years old - already a Vietnam Veteran was deeply unhappy.  One night he stole the huge plane that came down after a deeply-touching recorded conversation with his wife.   Knott’s aeroplane find will finally answer the question - was the plane downed on purpose or did he lose control as well as his life?

This is a sad tale and a deeply touching one.  I’m hooked and I want to know more. Knott’s description of his being a Story Hunter sparked immediate interest.

Stories offer us a wider view, as wide as you like.  You can find stories in pretty much any genre.

I’m an audiobook girl and listen as I paint in my studio.   I whizz through books at a speed I’d never be able too if my book was in my hand.  My reading from the page happens nightly before I sleep.

I’ll be writing more about the importance of stories here in my blog soon.  But for now, as I hear you lament the fact that you aren’t creative, I ask you to take a look at your bookshelves.  You read all those books, your mind gave the people in them identities, you pictured the scenes.

You are creative.

What was the last book you read?  

Mine is ‘This Is Going To Hurt’ by Adam Kay.  His diary entries of a being Junior Doctor in the NHS.  His funny, touching stories will be staying with me forever.

About Samantha:

Sam Barnes has been a practising artist for 25 years. Throughout her career she has had her own gallery, worked with hundreds of artists in making and marketing their own works and exhibited her own extensively. Her work has been successfully published & licensed many times. Sam is passionate about artists, makers and creatives earning a decent living from what they do. Our world needs new and beautiful things and artists deserve liveable incomes. Those two things are possible. Sam writes from her first hand experience and occasionally works 1:1 with others.

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